Family and Kids

Four Generations: Dad, me, Jesse with Sam and Joshua (in white). Jesse has 7 kids now!

One day my son Jesse (with the hat like mine!) said to his son Josh – in jest, “I am disappointed in you Josh. You only compose music for one instrument — the piano. Too bad you can’t compose for more instruments.”


…when Jesse returned from work that night Josh said, “Dad, I had a little free time after lunch – what do you think of this?”


By the way, this picture was taken a few years before my dad died. Josh was younger then and just discovering his gift. He is the one with the white soccer t-shirt. May God grant my best-of-fathers quickly to see His face!

Anyone who knows someone who would donate or purchase a Grand Piano for this boy, let me know.


We are not quite sure what to think of this boy. One day at our house he started playing the piano at eight years old. The next thing we know it’s difficult to find a teacher for him because he is so talented.

I know it didn’t come from Janet or I, or other ancestors that I know of – it must be a gift infused by God. This is his own variation on “Carol of the Bells.”

By the way, if you know anybody who would like to donate a grand piano to this home-schooled boy, please let me know. Or if you know someone that can help out…


39 Years Ago Today – Best Decision I Ever Made!

by Steve Ray on December 4, 2015

Not too long before I asked her to marry me. Yeah, I used to have hair!!

Today Janet and I CELEBRATED our 39th wedding anniversary. Four great kids and 12 grand kids later we couldn’t be happier. God has been good.

But, we worked at our marriage. I likened it to a masterpiece of art that takes a lifetime to complete – but if we do, it is hung in the galleries of heaven.  

Our wedding in 1976. She was 19 and I was 21.

We told our kids that the family is like a novel and we are all part of the drama. We are an exclusive club – don’t do anything stupid to get written out of the story or alienated from the club. The drama continues, the club is intact.

Look what happened next! Lovely Cindy came along (now with 5 of her own!)

Yesterday I was at a grocery store buying food to make a special dinner for Janet and the woman behind the counter with a ring in her nose and tattoos up and down said her coworker, “I am NEVER getting married!”

I leaned over and said to her and her coworker, “I am here to buy ingredients for a dinner for my wife. It is our 39th anniversary and marriage is the best thing that ever happened to me!”  She froze. I smiled!

Our whole family of 6 joined the Catholic Church; we are now 22!

We Christians need to CELEBRATE our marriages, our spouses and our families. I understand that many have been dealt a bad hand (divorce, death, adultery, etc.), but God will give each one the grace to live our lives to the fullest even with problems.

But those of us who have families — CELEBRATE and let the world see what God has designed and how beautiful it can be. The world needs to see the beauty of the family – a man and a woman for a lifetime.

It is up to YOU Dads! Be strong! Lead your family! Be examples! Show mercy and love. The best thing a dad can do for his kids is to LOVE THEIR MOTHER! 

Thank you Lord for Janet and for our family and the grace that you have given in the midst of an ever increasingly evil world. Keep our kids safe and help them to pass the Faith and love of family on to the next generation, and the next, and the next …   until You come again!

Latest picture of our whole family a year ago at our youngest daughter's wedding


Pope says, Turn off TV, put down smart phones, turn off computers and eat meals intimately together.

November 15, 2015

I couldn’t agree more. We didn’t have these gadgets when we raised our kids. We got rid of television and opted to read books. My father was a radical when he raised me – he refused to get us kids a TV but read stories and books to us every night after we all ate [...]

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Get Ready for the Holidays: Steve Ray’s Seven Rules for Dealing with Non-Catholic Family & Friends: Getting Ready for Christmas :-)

November 10, 2015

Today I was on Take 2 with Jerry and Debbie on EWTN Radio discussing my Seven Rules for dealing with family and friends who disagree with us, oppose us, want to argue and are against the Catholic Church and our morals. Steve Ray’s Seven Rules: 1) Never argue with them, it will only push them [...]

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Fun Family Breakfast – My Son and his Seven Kids for Brunch after Mass

August 9, 2015

This is a fun family. Janet and I went to Mass Saturday evening so we could cook a nice brunch for my son Jesse, his wife Anna and the seven kids. Psalm 127:3–4  ”Behold, children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a [...]

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The Literacy and Spirituality of a Day Gone By; A Tattered Yellowed Page; A Poem I Found from my Great-Grandmother

July 1, 2015

I never knew my Great Grandmother Frances Picard. She was originally an O’Grady. They had a deep spirituality and she converted to the Catholic Church later in her life. (By the way, this was all new to me since I never knew – in my childhood – that I had several lines of Catholic ancestors.)  [...]

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A Limerick for a Questioning Grandson – Did Jesus Really Exist?

May 21, 2015

My grandson Josh asked, “Did Jesus really live? Maybe he didn’t and it was just a good story someone made up.” So I sat down and wrote him this limerick and gave him a stack of books from my library. The topic has not come up again since. Was there really a man named Jesus? [...]

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My Grandson’s Surprising Three Instrument Composition – in one day!

April 21, 2015

My son Jesse wrote this morning about our 12 year old grandson Joshua Thomas Ray. Here is what he said,  “Yesterday I teased Joshua about his compositions only having one instrument in them. Today I came home from work and he asked me to listen to this (video below) also linking his sheet music. It [...]

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Steve Ray’s Conversion Story up on “Why I’m Catholic”

April 10, 2015

 This is a great website with conversion stories from every religious tradition imaginable to Catholic. The Why I’m Catholic website should be passed around to family and friends. It is very well done, beautifully laid out and full of great stories. Our story was posted this week. You can read it HERE.  

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Fun Article in Faith Magazine: For Stephen Ray Evangelizing is an Adventure!

April 6, 2015

Faith Magazine came out to do an interview last year and the article showed up this month (April 2016). Hope you enjoy it. Today we are ON OUR WAY to Fatima, Avila and Lourdes! Stay tuned for updates, daily videos and more.

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Tears Reading Happy-Sad-Emotional Story to the Grandkids; and Saving a Bird

April 5, 2015

Families are great and so are great stories. One of our favorite authors is W. Wilson Rawls who only wrote two books but they are both treasures — especially for reading aloud to kids.  The first of Rawls’ books we read a year or so ago was entitled Where the Red Fern Grows. What a great [...]

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My Grandson Josh’s (12 years old) Latest Piano Composition – finished between lunch and dinner :-o

March 27, 2015

He has a gift and it must be from God because it didn’t come from us :-)

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Emily is an RN and we are Proud of her

March 23, 2015

Our daughter Emily worked hard for this card. It says RN which stands for Registered Nurse. She graduated this year, passed the licensing exam with flying colors and just received this card today. Her mother and I could not be prouder and the people she cares for are the luckiest in the world to have [...]

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Abraham Footprints DVD Premier Showings

March 20, 2015

Abraham, Father of Faith & Works is now for sale!  We have had a great time this week showing it to very different audiences — and to rousing applause and rave reviews.  First, we showed it to the wonderful Sisters of Mary, Mother of the Eucharist at their convent in Ann Arbor Michigan. I was [...]

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Abortion: High Schooler Asks; My Daughter-in-Law Answers – Brilliantly and Compassionately

March 10, 2015

A few days ago a high school girl wrote to ask me questions about abortion. She was writing a paper and wanted to “interview” me on the topic. I was busy jumping planes and giving talks so my daughter-in-law Anna graciously — and brilliantly — answered the young lady for me. I think you will [...]

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